A woman’s perspective: Valerie Divers

100 years ago, the 19th Constitutional Amendment was ratified, officially allowing women across the United States the right to vote.

The right of citizens of the United States to vote shall not be denied or abridged by the United States or by any State on account of sex.

Congress shall have power to enforce this article by appropriate legislation.

Today, the fight for gender equality continues. To move forward, however, women must not forget where they came from and what progress still needs to be made. These stories – stories from the past, from older women – are often overlooked, and deserve to be told.

These stories and experiences are important ones to tell – to show all the young girls, teen girls, young ladies, women, and all the ladies in between that they ARE important, that their voice DOES matter, and that, at times, they may still have to fight for their seat at the table.

Here is one of those stories.


Valerie Divers, 42, is my aunt.

Tell me about a time you were treated differently than men at school or work.

Wow. I have to think about that one. I was one of the guys but not one. 

What do you mean by that?

I guess it would be when I worked at Toys ‘R Us and the guys would always say “Here, I’ll get it” thinking I was weak or something – like I can’t pick up heavy things. I mean guys knew I could hold my own and I was girly.

When they picked up heavy things for you, was it because they were being nice or did they feel that you just couldn’t do it? 

Both. With the older guys, it was being nice. The younger ones thought I couldn’t.

Do men ever make you feel unequal? 

No not really.  I think if I were younger, my answers would be different. But, since I’m older, I have a lot of experience and I’m sure it shows when I talk.

So you do feel both genders are equal?

No

Why is that?

I don’t think most men can hold a household. 

What do you  mean? Having a home in all? Keeping it clean? Or keeping it stable?

Being a housewife. Especially being a housewife and having a job. Most men think they’re too good to do laundry or freakin’ wash dishes or “Oh no, thats a girl’s job.”

Do you have a story you’d like to tell? Let us know in the comments below or email us at sbhstyrotimes@gmail.com.

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